Waiting to be Married

Ever since I was a little girl I dreamed about the Hindu ceremony. Walking around the fire excites me! & to wear a lehenga with all the jewelry, bling, and henna! Basically it's an opportunity to be an Indian Queen for a day. Everything about it is breathtaking. However there's more to it than that. After further embracing my mother's faith I feel an even deeper and spiritual connection to the Hindu wedding ceremony which has multiplied in my heart. Still just like any ceremony it is an opportunity to tell people and God that you are in love and committed to this person. It is a celebration and also a promise to cherish, live, and learn with them. To become a unit. The frustrating thing though is how to bring this event into actuality. First, how do you have a Indian fusion wedding, with minimal budget, in a small midwestern town? Secondly, how does one convince their in-laws to participate and to accept non traditional elements that they may not be comfortable with? To see the beauty that I see in this wonderfully colorful and inspiring event? Being vegetarians, and wanting a vegetarian wedding, does not help either to ease things. However it is an important aspect of who we both are and what we believe in. Also finding resources is a difficult task in Wisconsin and I am not surrounded by my beloved Guyanese relatives so I am basically flying solo here.

Also bothersome is that there isn't a plethora of pandits in the area and the one that we have found does not communicate with us or seem to care. We desire more than just a wedding pandit. We want a spiritual person that can provide guidance and support even after the wedding. For me, this wedding is not just about getting married it's about my fiance's and my spiritual journey together. If anyone has some suggestions???? I would appreciate it, in the meantime I will be waiting to be married.